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Pretty flower · 29d
hey fran. i'm a long time follower of your beautiful musings and i also love your advice. i have this huge crush on a girl from the fandom i'm in. i feel silly but i think i may actually have feelings for her. has this ever happened to you? what do you think i should do without making it look creepy? we talk a bit but not much and i can hardly keep my feelings from exploding when i see her on my timeline...
Crushes are a little strange but wonderful. For example, I get crushes on writers all the time. I fall a little bit in love with anyone whose writing I really love. Their brain came up with those words, right? What a lovely thing it must be.
It’s not the same thing because I don’t correspond with them but the feeling behind it is similar. There’s something there that your heart picks up on and thinks, “Yes, I’m into this.”
I think crushes harmless and fun. It’s good to have a crush! It keeps your mind busy and your heart pumping.
Maybe you should make an effort to talk to her more. Not in a forceful way; just build up on the rapport you already have. Ask about her day, share things about yourself. Go a little beyond the usual fandom chat. See if she’s responsive to it. There’s no harm in wanting to get to know people better if they are willing.
And who knows? Maybe your crush will be reciprocated one day ;)
Pretty flower · 1mo
what would you say to a person who says “i wish i could love in a quieter manner. i worry that i'll overwhelm. i don't understand how to make what i feel smaller” 🥺
I would tell them that love is supposed to be loud. That you should be able to hear it from a distance and feel it when they’re not there.
I would tell them I would never want them to shrink themselves for me.
And I would tell them that I have always liked my music loud, and my feelings big.
Pretty flower · 1mo
Hello fran! This is your longtime fan from Indonesia again. ❤️
I am sorry for the disturbance, but im afraid i need to borrow a bit of your time as i will confide in you, because i dont know where to put these thoughts. I believe you could turn them into beautiful pieces regardless of the connotations, i believe your mind and hands are always capable of making masterpieces.
I am currently going through something devastating from something that is oh so gentle— love. I can't believe how powerful and how dangerous it is to love someone, it's like giving them an access to the button that destroys your vwry existence, but they dont push it simply because they care for you. It can be very kind but also very cruel, and i wonder, will i ever heal from this?
Every night when the empty space is filled with my thoughts, it feels like my heart is crawling up my throat and my ribs are closing in on itself— my hands felt so weak, unable to stop what is inevitable and my mind couldn't help but blame itself for its incapability. I never knew what to do when my heart moves on its own and how my whole being becomes enslaved to it right after— i never knew what to do when the suffocating began cornering me and laying it's hands on my throat. It's all so cruel.
I never knew what to do when a person so gentle and caring leaves me with nothing but the prettiest and kindest memories.
They always seem to hurt more... Linger more until it inevitably leaves marks all over my being. I never knew what to do when it all comes back to me with breakups. I never knew what to do with the remaining love contained within my heart that seems like it never empties itself long after they're gone.
My heart continuously bleeds for them and trying to claw itself out of my chest, just for the chance to see them again, and i am helpless to stop it. Tell me fran, what do you do in situations like this? I have accepted the fact that my heart knows who it belongs to long after they're gone, but i cannot bear the ache and pain that ebbs every night.
Im afraid their presence have bled into all of the works i created, and i am utterly defeated... it's not long before they consume me, even after being long gone.
We don’t have the power to stop our hearts from falling but we can choose what to do with the pieces. I think it’s human to want to leave the mess to deal with later, to walk around it and postpone the cleanup because it was beautiful when it was whole and you can’t bear to throw it away.
But at some point we have to. Because it isn’t fair to us.
You can keep the memories of something that was precious even if it hurt you, as long as you don’t allow it to keep making you bleed.
I know it’s easier said than done but my advice is to not let the pain become the thing you admire. We are not meant to hurt, though is it inevitable at times.
Keep hold of what was good and discard the rest. Don’t let it keep you hostage.
Be well, love 🤍
Pretty flower · 1mo
it’s so funny when a ship seemingly comes out of nowhere and grips you by the throat because why am i so hyperfixated on a serial killer profiler x son of a serial killer pairing??? they’re just so freaking cute. i can’t help it??
Pretty flower · 1mo
you have such a beautiful mind. you make me want to write!
Pretty flower · 1mo
fave microtropes? <3
Pretty flower · 1mo
what’s a book you loved recently?
Pretty flower · 1mo
missed you!!!!! your musings always make me think and make me smile <3 sending much love always