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Anonymous · 2d
Hey. Found your account through one of my moot and I found you really cool. I scrolled down and found your alterspring so I just want to say that I admire you and will be nice if you tell me if you're seeing someone. Thankies :}
Anonymous · 1mo
By I mean on losing basic decency is people would cancel plans last minute because of non-emergency reasons, not showing up to their loved ones, or not even apology when they’re in the wrong. I heard someone said, "well, I don’t care. I don’t have to protect other women feelings." It’s also been topic in non-Indonesian community how the current generation behaves but it seems haven’t reached the local audiences yet.
Hi, sorry for the late reply! Just checking my Alterspring again. I think.. this has something to do with Pandemic and the rising of individualism in internet era. Everyone is struggling and they have no choice other than to save themselves — and perhaps, while doing that, forgot to consider other people. Again, I’m not generalising everyone to have this tendency, but I can see a lot of people do this. And I’m assuming COVID becomes the catalyst of this madness; COVID that happened during their prime / formative years. Well, feel free to share your thoughts yaa!
Anonymous · 1mo
Quick question. Do you think Gen Z has lost basic decency to another human being? If their defense is "we are trying to survive here and we don’t have a time to think what’s good what’s bad" is it still tolerable?
Wow, what a discussion. I think it's not fair to generalize a whole generation that they lost basic decency to another human being. Any person who might be struggle with their own crisis, or are in a survival mode maybe could lose it in order to survive and make it. And they can come from any generation. Maybe, you want to specify your observation; what do you mean by losing basic decency? Examples could help with the discussion.
Anonymous · 1mo
akak, tolong cariin pacar untukku dong. pengen disayang jugaaaa ㅠ.ㅠ
Chiora · 1mo
Randomly curious about what do you value the most in friendship? :3
Hi, Chio! Thanks for the question. What I value in my friendship are trust and honesty. We don’t have to talk everyday, but once we can spend a quality time together, we can talk about anything. We can talk about something silly or important — can be both about our personal issues or world issues. However, one thing for sure is that I’ll keep my friend’s secrets. So I hope they’ll keep mine too. Once I witness that my friends leak / spread something about me to others or trash talk me behind my back, I’m sorry I’ll take it as a betrayal.
Anonymous · 1mo
kak, di era digital sekarang kan sering konten yang suruh cut off teman-teman yang gak ada mutual effort tapi kalau posisinya lagi kesepian banget dan butuh teman untuk sekedar makan, gapapa gak tetap ajak walau selalu reach out sendirian?
Hi! Of course gak apa-apa, seriously, semakin dewasa sebetulnya semakin sadar bahwa orang tuh berbeda-beda. Kadang, mereka gak ada kapasitas aja untuk apa-apa duluan ngajak atau gak terbiasa apa apa harus cerita, atau malah gak enakan. Kalau kita kepikiran dan punya kapasitasnya, gak apa apa dong ajak duluan! Yang mungkin bisa direfleksikan tuh: apakah dengan berteman sama orang itu buat kamu jadi gak suka diri sendiri? Atau the feeling doesn't feel right dan gak nyaman karena beda cara pandang, misalnya, atau temenmu toxic, mungkin bisa di-consider untuk cut off. Tapi kalau masalahnya adalah kamu duluan yang selalu ajak, coba dipikir-pikir dulu, mungkin bisa dikomunikasikan? It happened once in my friendship, and after I talked it out, turned out my best friend thought that I was that busy sampai gak tega buat reach out duluan. Jadi mungkin dari temanmu ada perspektifnya sendiri, so ngobrol sounds good!
Dewani · 1mo
Arian, akhirnya aku kepikiran. Bisa kah bermutualan disini? Wkwk
Anonymous · 1mo
Quick question. Are you the type of jealous as a partner? If so, what’s your easiest way to cope? I understand how trust works but I can’t seem to trust my partner fully due to the thoughts of he’s a people pleaser like he couldn’t read hints if other people try to get to him romantically. Now that he has a work training for a month and half, it got me anxious for the possibility of him— meeting another new people. Sounds toxic but perhaps I can gain new perspective from you.
A really honest answer: yes, I'm easily jealous, lol. I love intensely, hence jealousy is something common to be there. Dan manusiawi because we love our partner so bad that we're afraid to lose them. However, the way we cope and how to act on that feeling is important. In your case, I'd keep this in mind: people get closer or make a move to my boyfriend is something out of my control. The way he responds to others and make others "baper" of him is also something out of my control. Selama you're communicating with him, bilang apa saja interaksi yang kamu gak nyaman kalau dia lakukan dengan orang lain, then your job is done. A healthy partner will be considerate of you; he won't do things that you consider uncomfortable. The rest is.. give in and trust him. Penuhi tangki cinta satu sama lain. Kamu sayang-sayang aja pacarmu selama dia lagi jauh, ya. Semangat!
Anonymous · 2mo
Lanjutan yang tadi, dari segi konteks ini crush ku.. aware that it's out of my control but still kinda sad because of it. Anyway, thank u for answering and giving me an advice!
Sedih itu reaksi yang wajar yaa. Emotion is there not to be pushed away. Embrace and acknowledge it, like.. Yes, I feel sad because they seem to have a different capacity and priority than mine. If I were you, maybe I want to reach out to them and ask about how they're doing. Kalau ternyata malah jadi lebih sedih karena jawabannya berbeda dari ekspektasi, then I know it better. I'll be detaching slowly, decentering them and starting to focus on my needs more. Semangat ya! Have a nice Sunday.