Why is the heart romanticised in the first place? I've read it so many times, but never understood it.

Even if we see it from the cannibalistic perspective -I've read in so many fictions that eating your lover's heart is the ultimate act of love, when logically, it should be the brain.
Heart just pumps blood, it doesn't think. Eating it is the equivalent of eating steak. It grants you no knowledge, no memories, and no essence. It's an empty, biological gesture.

Everything that makes a lover them -their private jokes, fears, memories etc. is encoded in the neurons and synapses of the brain. If a cannibal truly wants to "consume" and "become one" with the person they love, they have to eat the organ that actually contains that person.

And here is where the romance actually peaks -a knowledgeable cannibal knows that eating the brain might kill him. Prions are concentrated in nervous tissue. By choosing the brain, the cannibal isn't trying to survive the lover; he is choosing to join them in annihilation.
Eating the heart is selfish. It's about keeping the lover's "love" inside you while you continue living while eating the brain is selfless.

I found where it all begun -it was the Egyptians. When they mummified people, they scooped out the brain through the nose with a hook and threw it away. They thought the brain was useless packing material. But the heart? They left it in the body cuz they believed it was the seat of intelligence, memory, and the soul.
That cultural bias bled into Greek philosophy, and Aristotle doubled down, declaring the heart was the center of all emotions and thought.

Eating a heart is a symbolic act that says, "Your life force is now mine." It is a beautiful fairy tale. While eating a brain says, "Your specific, dangerous, messy consciousness is now inside my skull." Its almost a psychological horror.

Do you think we romanticize the heart simply cuz society is lazy and sentimental -choosing easy, safe symbols over difficult, dangerous truths? Or is there a deeper, more generous reason we cling to the heart that I'm missing?

I don't know why I'm even thinking about their breakup after such a long time, but here it is.

I feel like people often enter relationships with different approaches. Ofc, everyone has their own unique way of thinking, and there isn't always a clear distinction between mindsets, but I'm talking about these two specifically to make things simpler and clearer for me to understand -

a) you are comfortable with the person the way things are going on, so you come into a relationship with them. Stability, safety and the known.
b) You actively want to change yourself for your partner because you feel some of your traits aren't likable. You want to grow and fix those flaws for the sake of the relationship.

Changing for the better is a good kind of growth that everyone should go through. But it backfires sometimes.
It was proof of CC's growth that he tried to do the right thing for Wei. He was still jealous, but he chose to hide it and give Wei freedom instead of acting out. Ironically, that change was exactly what Wei didn't want. Because CC hid his possessiveness, Wei assumed CC didn't care anymore. Or CC did express his feelings, but Wei was so deeply buried under his own lies and insecurities that he simply chose not to see it.

Wei had his own secrets, but if CC had just been his usual, outwardly petty self, things would have turned out differently -
If CC was his usual self, Wei prolly would've confessed why he approached CC in the first place much before it actually happened. He would have willingly accepted any punishment CC gave him, instead of just letting his own heart break.
And when Wei saw that kiss between CC and Shuo, an old, outwardly possessive CC would have forced a loud, immediate confrontation. Instead, because CC kept it contained and Wei refused to see past his own insecurities, they both just kept the pain hidden in their own hearts.
There were many reasons for the breakup, but don't you think CC's decision to hide his toxic traits was one of the main trigger for it? Ofc, Wei was equally responsible but i've seen people mostly just blaming Wei for the breakup. Afterall, If you like the person - it includes your negative side too , isn't it? For you , that isn't anything bad - its just what makes you You?

Hey,
I wanted to talk to you about something I've been noticing lately in your revo. Tbh, I was a bit reluctant to say anything at first, cuz it’s your space and entirely your decision how you choose to handle things. Please don't take this as criticism or feel like I'm scolding you at all.

It genuinely breaks my heart to see you responding to those short, mean spirited hate comments with such thoughtful, deeply felt paragraphs. Your responses are always so articulate and full of depth, but the reality is that the people leaving them aren't looking for a meaningful dialogue. They just want to provoke a reaction and drain your energy.

I can tell you’ve been dealing with this kind of toxicity for years. If engaging with them gives you some form of peace, closure, or even amusement, then I completely support how you choose to handle it. But if any part of it ever feels exhausting or frustrating, please know that you don't owe them a single word.

Your words make such an incredible difference to me, and I just want to make sure you're protecting your energy. Sending you so much love and support as always!