nekoz cold war is the best and worst thing to happen to rpfdom like wow. just when we needed good tinhat doomspiral material. my current favorite yaoi lens interpretation is that yes ym had some kind of Feeling for nc but that's not necessarily what caused the rift; maybe they tried something or maybe not, but regardless nc hurts ym in some way but it smarts so badly/is such a hit to ym's pride because of his Feelings. [refer to: nc saying that he has learned how independent of a kitty cat ym is and that he's learned how to respect that... not word for word forgive me but that's the gist] obviously unintentional on nc's part. i also think he stays oblivious to what exactly he did wrong for the majority of the war. on top of all of that they're both NOT the type to confront each other about it -- nc is like i messed up i should leave him alone so he doesn't get even more hurt/upset with me; ym is like my pride won't let me think abt my Feelings and also ack what an awkward convo this would be. i too love nekoz very badly; i think there's definitely a beautiful universe in which K's intervention works out in multiple ways and they try dating and it's okay and ncls isn't haunted by The Byun Euijoo Complex (or maybe ym is okay with it) but that universe is so out of our reach..........

i mean when it comes to this convo i'm just like. in the offline queer community there definitely do exist people with very strict queer preferences. and we're all in this weird online rpf space where we're playing around with projections of people. ofc there will be people who are weird about it but i'd hesitate with a label like homophobia because there's too much nuance. just as an explanatory thing i do think a lot of it stems from larger differences in queer culture, which is why in asian/mainland fandom it's so common to adhere to those strict t/b dynamics; like, in china there are literally a million different labels for the kind of Lesbian Top you can be for instance whereas in the west the terms are a lot more fluid. but there's also the effect of BL/fujo culture; that's who I think you're talking about; and yeah BL has really shaped the way people talk about gay relationships for better or worse. you can really tell when someone's sole experience with the queer community is BL/yaoi by the way they talk about dynamics lmaooo. Anyway to top this ramble off: reheating what all of my moots say every 5-6 business months -- we are essentially here to have fun with what appeals to us, so curate your timeline to see what you want to see, who gives a fuck what appeals to you, just don't be a nuisance about it (i.e. yucking other people's yums). you can be serious and strict about your preferences without being annoying and attention-seeking and combative, and in the same vein you can hate people who are strict about their preferences and avoid them too. we must use the tools available to us of curating our timelines because we're all in this space together #Hopeful

ye uhhhh hm... immerse...yourself... sorry i'm not necessarily the best person to come to about language specifically because i myself am kinda bad at learning other languages but i will say there's so much research about how immersion is the fastest way to learn! and i think you can simulate immersion pretty easily if you listen/watch media in the language you want to learn; for korean i'd recommend podcasts or youtubers. culture-wise aim for consuming content that isn't just tailored for an international audience, though that might definitely prove difficult at first. does this help? if you have more to ask feel very much free to dm though! :)