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A Shy Scout · 4mo
Goblok
Udah berbulan-bulan rutin ngirimin gua reminder kayak gini. Tell me now, is this the kind of attention that you’ve been desperately seeking? Maunya gua bales kayak gini?
Your being a coward is already an enough reason for me not to give a single fuck about you, and my boyfriend and I have been laughing at each of your desperate attempts. But here you go, I’m finally listening now. Mau lu apaan?
A Shy Scout · 7mo
Junye, Junye. What’s your mbti. :o
I recognize the little visit, hello again? It’s The Debater, by the way, ENTP.
A Shy Scout · 7mo
Okay, fine. I’m the loser one. I’m not gonna ragebait you for the rest of the week.
Noting this down as a promise.
A Shy Scout · 7mo
How do you handle trauma dumping? Asking for myself bc I think you have nice perspective 😓
Recognize and acknowledge your boundaries. I know that, when it actually happens, half the battle would be sensing if someone jumps to dump their trauma on you instead of thoughtfully opening up. And when you do see it, it’s very important to be brave and stop what needs to be stopped.
In most of my cases, I tend to try not to overcommit for my own mental wellbeing. Showing compassion is always a must, but being aware of where the path would lead is as important.
For example, if someone’s story begins to affect you mentally, your portion will only be to hear and to validate. You don’t need to think of a proper response because it may trigger their over-disclosure, which won’t be good for you.
Think Aristotle’s Golden Mean: vulnerability in balance. You can still be someone who listens, while finding the middle ground where your empathy meets its limits.
A Shy Scout · 7mo
june biasnya di txt siapa? :o
🤔 Care to venture a guess, Capt?
A Shy Scout · 7mo
Been wondering if I should drop a few question bombs here, but then again.. They said that curiosity killed the cat, and I’d hate to have that on my conscience. Still, I’ll take my chances: 1) You’re dangerously attractive. Do people tell you that often, or should I make it a habit? 2) Are you open to something casual, or do you lean more toward the relationship side of things. 3) What’s the easiest way to get into your mind and heart? Asking purely for research purposes, though I wouldn’t mind a little fieldwork.
No pressure to answer, but saving a poor cat sounds like a pretty good reason to, don’t you think? 🍅
An appraisal of heart and mind, isn’t it, where the bombs are aiming towards? But sure, your visit has endeared me to the chance you’re taking.
1) When it comes to hearing such comments, I’m honestly as lost as a goldfish, and I must remind you that habits show loyalty to something you desire. Sounds like a big task, I know, but please get me out of my confusing bowl with it.
2) Is my being a maximalist enough to answer this one? Hehe. On a serious note, I’m not so good with something casual. Well, maybe that’s just under two conditions: i) If I get your reference about ‘something casual’ right, ii) I’ve never really engaged in one. Unfamiliarity. On a /more/ serious note, I lean towards something with a bit more depth. With an anchor. A definite one. But who knows if it’s actually just depends on who, not what we’re talking about?
3) I’m afraid I can’t see myself letting this particular matter laid bare, but I’ll give you a little peek at my cheat sheet, alright?
: Recognitions. Coffee temperature. Character judgements. Boldness. Petty preferences.
You aimed right, by the way, by pulling your curious kitty card out. Let me know how the research goes, yeah?
A Shy Scout · 7mo
Blep. What’s the meaning of your handle Junye.
Oh, a precious one just plopped in with an interesting question.
“Flos Regis” is a poetic Latin phrase. “Flos” means “flower” that can also be translated to “the bloom of”, and “regis” is a genitive singular of the word ‘rex (king)’ which means “of the king”. Being put together, the phrase refers to an idea of a flower that belongs to a king.
I chose to use it as a handle for I thought of considering my account as something as cherished as a flower. Something that delicately feels like a refuge of peace, also a revival of weakness and lethargy. And, of course, there’s me being the king to whom it belongs.
A Shy Scout · 7mo
so your eyes belongs to Gheya?
If only Gheya was the one who drew up these blueprints and crafted my eyes. Shame there was no contract.
All jokes aside, the answer’s not in plain sight, Capt. If you’d rather skip the puzzle, come and take a look at the cheat sheet yourself, would you?
A Shy Scout · 7mo
Have you set your eyes to someone yet?
Why, thinking of being the one I set my eyes on?
A Shy Scout · 8mo
Marcus Aurelius ruled through plague, betrayal and endless war, but still he ruled well. Not because there was no burden, because he didn't wait for peace to act with clarity. Misfortune didn't disqualify him, yet it defined him.
The crown is only metal. But how you wear it when the world shakes… that's the kingdom. Wear it when the world is burning, Elian. Rule your own Kingdom.
Marcus bore the weight of the empire as the rare ruler whose wisdom outshined his own crown, but you’re right, it wasn’t because there was no burden. He had more than just grit, he endured fire, stood in the middle of a storm like he was born in it; and that’s how I know I should strive.
I’m not writing from a tent on the Danube frontier, also wasn’t made of the same steel that held its shape to define wisdom. But the crown shall sit, no? However crooked, however weary.