MirrorCrush · 24d
I don't know why I'm even thinking about their breakup after such a long time, but here it is.
I feel like people often enter relationships with different approaches. Ofc, everyone has their own unique way of thinking, and there isn't always a clear distinction between mindsets, but I'm talking about these two specifically to make things simpler and clearer for me to understand -
a) you are comfortable with the person the way things are going on, so you come into a relationship with them. Stability, safety and the known.
b) You actively want to change yourself for your partner because you feel some of your traits aren't likable. You want to grow and fix those flaws for the sake of the relationship.
Changing for the better is a good kind of growth that everyone should go through. But it backfires sometimes.
It was proof of CC's growth that he tried to do the right thing for Wei. He was still jealous, but he chose to hide it and give Wei freedom instead of acting out. Ironically, that change was exactly what Wei didn't want. Because CC hid his possessiveness, Wei assumed CC didn't care anymore. Or CC did express his feelings, but Wei was so deeply buried under his own lies and insecurities that he simply chose not to see it.
Wei had his own secrets, but if CC had just been his usual, outwardly petty self, things would have turned out differently -
If CC was his usual self, Wei prolly would've confessed why he approached CC in the first place much before it actually happened. He would have willingly accepted any punishment CC gave him, instead of just letting his own heart break.
And when Wei saw that kiss between CC and Shuo, an old, outwardly possessive CC would have forced a loud, immediate confrontation. Instead, because CC kept it contained and Wei refused to see past his own insecurities, they both just kept the pain hidden in their own hearts.
There were many reasons for the breakup, but don't you think CC's decision to hide his toxic traits was one of the main trigger for it? Ofc, Wei was equally responsible but i've seen people mostly just blaming Wei for the breakup. Afterall, If you like the person - it includes your negative side too , isn't it? For you , that isn't anything bad - its just what makes you You?
Considering we are both writers and readers, I was a bit confused but I eventually caught on.
So, imo, as an empath, I correlate with both sides and felt them deeper than I really should have. Like, my mom and Uncle have both seen the show and they stand on opposing sides, while I stand in the middle, kinda just hovering.
My mom finds fault in CC, thinking if he hadn't of left or if he was honest regardless of what the mother wanted then it would have worked out. While my Uncle finds fault in Wei, thinking the lying started way before the "break up era" and it should have ended with Wei being honest and appreciative.
Again, imo... They were very much both in the wrong. They both dealt with the same fears and emotions, on different levels, and responded to them differently.
Chi was willing to gloss it all over if Wei said he loved him, but Wei needed everything to end to start anew.
Everything, from beginning to end, including perspective, reaction and response, was too complex to look at alone. The whole picture needed a reboot... So while I hurt for them both.. and would have went about it a different way... (possibly worse than Wei tfbh) I would end it like Wei, in hopes to start on equal grounds.
That doesn't remove the negative sides, it just evens the area and removes the dishonesty, to give them room to build towers strong enough to withstand possession and lurking bystanders.
