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apr. 24 '26
hello all,
who Aren't you? what have you gotten better at, lately? (or...over a long span of time. sometimes you need it, you know...) do you spend a lot of time reflecting?
i know some people may feel like their behaviour isn't them, per se, but i think the ability to improve does hold a lot of weight over who you are. who you are, to me, is who you aren't—who you can't be, who you've stopped being, who you make sure you'll never be. and—maybe you've improved other things. not your behaviour, but your mental. your thought processes, your inner voice...
so, who can't you be? who will you never be? how's that going along—or do you maybe not put a lot of thought into this sort of stuff at all...?
this is a fairly abstract question. typically i'd try not to talk too much on these, but i figured maybe some suggestions could help.
I was gonna say I'm no longer everything I regret being, but I don't really consider it entirely "not me" nor do i completely regret experiencing them. That was still me, and who I used to be made it possible changing into who I am now.
Little me had really severe anger issues and had poor capacity when it comes to considering how other people feel. It wasn't that I thought less of theirs and it wasn't selfishness I used to believe it was. It just didn't seem important to me for people to care about each other. I hated almost everyone, but that was because I subconsciously thought everyone also hated me.
I’m who I am now not because I stopped wanting to be that person, but rather I’ve come to understand where she was coming from and what I had to change for the better, for the sake of both the old me and my loved ones. I wouldn’t exactly despise if something happens and I end up resembling her unpleasant behavior again. After all, slowly learning not to shame the person I used to be and all her mistakes is what freed me of all that hatred I was filled with in the first place. But I guess someone I’d like to avoid being would be a person who’s too consumed by anger and projected hurt that I’d lose the capacity to understand both myself and others again. Yeah 🌈
