tomato seedling · 22d
(same anon) yess like i wonder whether he has only abandoned his deep feelings diary and still keeps one to log what he did throughout the day. and yeah the thing with compartmentalization is that it can only work so much and it’s also kind of temporary? i also wonder if radical acceptance as a final solution is always enough, i actually try using it as well regularly but imo there’s always emotions and situations that go beyond it. the way it’s even mentioned that he’s such a considerate, proper, altruistic person, makes me think about this topic a lot. this is not a finalised thought but facing one’s needs and emotions is inherently "selfish" in a way so i can see why he struggles so much with finding a release valve. and i could also see how this relates to his sleep problems. but im glad that his path is currently leading him back closer to himself ❤️‍🩹
yes i do think compartmentalization is healthy only when it’s used as a temporary tool. pain is inevitable, but suffering doesn’t have to follow, and this is where radical acceptance helps you stay grounded in the present moment, but after that we need to ask ourselves about what we can and cannot do about it (or at least that’s what i got from my fair share of experience with DBT). ///// i’m genuinely very moved that he even acknowledges those qualities in himself while also establishing that he’s more than the rigid labels people (even me, sometimes) impose on him. especially with him saying that choosing himself doesn’t negate his altruism :’) it’s necessary for me that i know he knows he’s an altruistic person. as someone who’s very used to catering to other people, putting himself first must be a form of courage in itself, and it’s admirable to me that he’s figuring out and reflecting on many things this year. how do i say this but. i just feel more and more reverence rather than only pride that his first album is an exploration of himself and how he perceives his own self :’)
