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tomato seedling Ā· 11d
well because bn is a more popular dynamic, thereās bound to be more bad apples/crazy people. I genuinely think that sunchanis person was a setup account. and then all nbers take it so seriously saying theyāre oppressedā¦ meanwhile the 4/10 rating was on a bn fic. I donāt see tweets promoting bn as superior maybe I curated my timeline too much so I donāt see that drama
i agree with your first point which actually connects to my point being that most people do not bat an eye when bners tweet about being ārightā or claim their preferences are just common sense. there are many variations of this attitude easily found here. for the record, i donāt think nbers are oppressed; i think itās a bit silly to use the term colloquially in this context, but nbers have been subjected to a lot of targeted harassment. but obviously, both sides get hate, and that rating comment on the bn fic was completely unwarranted and unfair to the author
tomato seedling Ā· 11d
is there a nb (or nb-bnb) server or gc out there for nb lovers š like i've been fine being a reader and not talking to ppl about nb or only having moots but now with all the nb hate in the tl (honestly has been for years) i wanna interact with fellow readers even the writers šš
tomato seedling Ā· 11d
hello oomf! how do you like your tomatoes
tomato seedling Ā· 11d
I finally got around to reading your latest fic and I loved it so much! the banter between them was written so well that it felt like half foreplay to me, and ofc the smut! thank you for blessing us with your writing
iām so glad you loved it! i had fun writing it, but i couldnāt help feeling a bit skeptical about how it would turn out for a couple of reasons (one being that iām not british myself lol). but iām genuinely so happy it got a good reception overall, and yours really warms my heart, especially because you pointed out about the banter. thank you so much for sharing this joy with me!!!!!
tomato seedling Ā· 11d
everything went downhill when one dynamic became the "default" rather than the preference of the majority
yes of course but itās more of a running theme for the majority in almost any setting there is. doesnāt mean that it always works like that. also i get it that people would prefer a dynamic you think makes the most sense to them but then again thereās no need to find any failing or flaws in the ones they donāt like. still, many try to justify their preferences, which creates this default mentality, i think
tomato seedling Ā· 11d
is all you do complain on twitter cause half of your account is just whining about some discourse
tomato seedling Ā· 11d
to your other reply about penetrative sex I was once harassed for not tagging a blow job with a top or bottom dynamic like, itās crazy to me because like can both the top and the bottom not suck dick?? sucking your partners dick doesnāt make you necessarily a top or bottom. But anyways
tomato seedling Ā· 11d
anon I think you're missing the point. it's this tweet, it's constant tweets about bn being "correct", disgust at the mere idea of reading nb, shading nbists because "how could they prefer that"... all about a couple we don't know and aren't involved with and could do both of these dynamics or neither. I also don't think the correct solution is to simply say nb is superior because this shouldn't be a nb vs bn fight in the first place btw. but there's way bigger problems than that right now
tomato seedling Ā· 11d
Iām bnb but you realize itās just one person and people wonāt nitpick if you just tag your fic? Even if itās switching just tag it and tag both dynamicsā¦ itās that easy. I also think itās wrong for people to publicly shame one specific creator but now thereās 100 tweets about how nb is superior
if youāre referring to me, i always tag mine whenever a penetrative sex scene is present. however, i donāt think authors are obligated to always tag t/b dynamics either. maybe their fics arenāt centered on sex dynamics, maybe they want to avoid readers with strict preferences. and i think that when they choose not to, they shouldnāt be nitpicked. hell, even when the fics are tagged, people here somehow still find reasons to publicly shame or complain, so i donāt think the issue is as simple as just adding a tag :( as for your last point, we actually see tweets promoting the other dynamic as superior or default almost daily in one way or another, so i wonder why nb tweets in particular cause you this frictionā¦
tomato seedling Ā· 12d
fandom so annoying it has me wanting to write exclusively nb from now on jesus fucking christ