lil ghost · 1mo
hiii! ive been around here for some time now but ive barely made any friends cause i honestly dont know how, if ppl are comfortable w dms out of the blue and things like that. i also struggle to keep the conversation going (ik im impossible ðŸ˜) so id like to if u can give me some tips for this? if u have any ofc! its ok if u dont c: i try to interact with my oomfies but they sometimes reply a bit cold so it just makes everything more diff for me but im also aware that might be just me so… yeah… sorry for the rambling and thank u in advance <33
hii!! making friends online can be hard sometimes so dont be too harsh on yourself!!
i can be quite extroverted sometimes which helps when i just yap a lot, but i also struggle sometimes with conversation, and you can't always force it either,, sometimes it is simply just as it is and thats also okay!! i think what can help at the start is definitely shared interests or talking about smthg u or that person is passionate about!! so maybe if its an author u can talk about their fics or ideas and brainworms or smthg both of u have read or watched,,, if u have any shared interests its much easier cause u both have a lot more to say,,, or maybe just getting to know each other once you've grown closer or learning about their interests!! some of my friends let me yell about esports to them even tho they dont really know anything about it, but theyre open to listening about what i love and that feels really nice :)))
i usually start by just replying to stuff a lot and i get u,,, sometimes i think i overdo replies but its also how ive gotten to be closer to ppl,, but also sometimes also messages on twt dont always sound the same as if u were speaking irl,,, so its harder to get the vibe,, but i hope u dont take it all to heart,,, but i have been there too xD
i know some ppl arent very receptive to dms, but i also know a lot of ppl who are! like me who are! i have legit just randomly sent someone ive talked to only on replies cause i saw smthg that reminded me of them!! so dont be too afraid even tho i know its daunting!! if ur worried u could ask them on a reply or like ur doing here!! and u can get a straightforward answer :))
but also u should remember that we are all just little ppl in the world,, and i think lots of ppl feel the same way as u,, cause its scary to put urself out there and little setbacks can make u feel a bit sad,,, but also soemtimes it takes a lot of mental capacity to chat a lot or ppl have busy lives so i hope u dont get weighed down by any colder responses.... its always hard at the start and can be hit or miss,, but i hope that doesnt hold u back!!
sry i yapped a lot and i dont know if i made much sense but im sending u my loveee <33
