anon · 25d
just to clarify things up: i never intended to call you homophobic and i am sorry that it came across that way. that’s actually why i chose to start it by saying that i know it wasn’t your intention and only mentioned that the way things are worded out can come off a bit weird sometimes (hence why you also felt the need to put the disclaimer yourself). but just like i said before i don’t think that being so adamant about two men doing This or two men doing That has the best connotations to it and… that’s it. personally i think a “have u ever seen two people act like this and not be in love” or anything in that sense would already suffice in this case but since you made it clear that you meant it exclusively for relationships between two guys (bcs of the context you’re inserted in) you might still prefer your og version (even though it’s pretty much feeding into stereotypes).
also, i know you’re queer… so am i. and I still don't think that being a minority exempts us from unconsciously saying things that we don’t actually mean. i understand why you felt offended at the idea of being called homophobic (i would too lol) but that’s not what happened so yeah… i think you didn’t fully get my point. still sorry you took it personally tho.
Okay so while i do admit that i shouldn't have taken it personally, it was hard not to. Especially when, and bear with me because after i got your ask i talked to several other queer people about my tweet, the tweet i made was... not homophobic at all, nor did it sound homophobic. Not to us at least. It may sound sexist/genderist towards men, which I will admit! But it was not intended to sound/be that way. i was making a simple observation and the gender had to be mentioned bc i was making direct comparisons in between my irl male friends i see and interact with vs matthew and hanbin. So yeah. It was not intended to be a microagression of any sort i promise. And as i said in my reply to you before; i do apologise for it sounding off to You. At the same time i think you're being too woke 😭😭 not in a mean way i promise but like anon there are surely bigger fish to be fried. .... i don't really see any way how my tweet may come off as homophobic. Personally. But i also admit I may be wrong!
If you can TRULY explain why it sounds that way, and want to actually educate me and not idk, put me on the spot or whatever in a public platform while hiding behind anonymity (because yes, that is what this looks like. it doesn't really look like you care about me it looks like uh you wanna idk make me uncomfy on main with no reason.) then you can dm me. I assure you i will not be upset, we can have a civil conversation like adults and you can teach me something new! And yes, being a minority doesn't excuse you from doing wrong things. I'm sorry i sounded that way but idk WHY and how and i think that is also a problem. I know this can sound genderist if you think deeply. I would like to know how exactly this is homophobic tho yeah /gen /nm
I would like to understand what you mean. I really would. I hope we can have a better conversation about this. Do dm me if you think similarly! If you don't dm me I'm honestly just gonna assume you're a hater that wants to stir trouble for no reason like im sorryyyy its just how this is looking like 😭
Anyway have a good day i hope we can djdhdj avoid unnecessary stuff like this and instead discuss and talk things out privately. its the best for everyone involved imo!
