jagiya · 7d
so with all the age gap talk going on, as someone who does love and prefer a 25+ age gap AND as someone who will be publishing their first fic ever soon (very nervous) AND respects your opinion as a very talented author (haiii can u tell I'm nervous), for story purposes minho and jisung's age gap is only 12 years in my work. Should I even tag it as age gap? I guess I'm worried about readers going into it with different expectations on what the "age gap" is and being disappointed or find it an insignificant difference. I did almost have a bit of underage obsession in it but I kind of wanted it to be more accessible for my first work, which might be cowardly idk. Anyways I would love some of your insight on it if you're willing, I'd be so grateful <3 thanks!!
hi hi! 🩷 omg well first of all I am so excited for you! posting your first fic!!! yay!! please send it to me when it’s up if you’re comfy? if it’s too much pressure tho I get it
12 years is a very respectable age gap yes yes you should def tag it. I don’t think anyone is going to be disappointed by that whatsoever!!! In fact I’m sure everyone is going to freak out about how much they love it 😌 obviously I love to see huge a huge age gap like 25+ but I also think anything between 10 and 15 is incredible for their own reasons. I mean when you really think of it they come with their different types of dynamics and circumstances and I think they each have their own unique appeals about them that make them amazing. so don’t even worry about it. you have no reason to!
on the topic of choosing not to include the underage obsession in this fic: I wouldn’t say it’s cowardly, even if I understand where that sentiment comes from. I mean I will always be the first person to tell you to write whatever you want no matter what, but that doesn’t always mean it’s easy to do. I’ve had similar dilemmas when planning stories…knowing I could very easily indulge and include something I know will be a deal breaker for many people but then I wonder whether that’s the type of story I want to tell this time. If I want my fic to be judged due to this one detail that may turn people off or if I want it to be perceived for everything else that it is. In a perfect scenario I could have both things without any need to consider it but we both know that’s not the situation here haha. Regardless, I will still always tell people to be true to their vision. I think at the end of the day as long as the center of your focus is telling the story YOU want to tell then you can’t go wrong. And if this particular story being more accessible is more important than adding the underage obsession, then I by no means could ever call that cowardly.
and for the record, I also don’t think it’s cowardly to choose not to write something just because it may not be received well. writing is a form of personal expression and it makes us feel very vulnerable to put our words down and share them with the world. exposing ourselves to the potential of negative reactions isn’t easy. But I also think there’s a very special power and fulfillment that comes with writing what you want no matter who might not like it. So I’ll always encourage people to do it anyways, because I think it’s important to freely create without the expectations of others weighing on us, but I know that’s hard! And however you choose to navigate it is okay and extremely valid.
….that said HAHAHA if you do choose to include the underage obsession I will be cheering you on enthusiastically so at least know that you’d def be supported if you choose to take that route :)
anyways!! I am rooting for you! I hope that everyone shows so much love for your very first fic 🥹 I hope that they’re all nice to you and that you feel as appreciated and fulfilled as you deserve!!<3
