I dug through my inbox to find this ask because it touches on something I’ve been wanting to talk about lol. I’ve answered before, but probably not in much detail. I first got into xtx in 2022 through their music, and when I started watching their variety content, I was immediately drawn to sb. there’s a saying in kpop fandoms that your bias is usually the member you see yourself in or identify with most, and that was the case for me. Not perfectly of course, but I resonated with his mindset and personality.

Naturally, I zoomed in on sb’s interactions while getting to know the group, and that’s how bg quickly came into focus. It was obvious they were the closest members, that sb considered bg special, and bg’s attachment to sb was both clear and very endearing. Their teasing and communication style was also just fun to watch. So there wasn’t one defining moment, their bond stood out right away, and I started shipping them casually.

By late 2022, though, I started sensing a tension between them, not from specific events at first, but from the vibes. The first concrete moment that really made me think there might be more going on was the flower challenge. After that, it snowballed with their talk about future plans, the puppy comparisons, and many other things. Little by little, their interactions began to feel too layered to fit neatly into the category of friendship, and the quality of their moments felt noticeably different compared to earlier years.

The reason I’m revisiting this now is because I’ve seen people mention how the sgyv community feels undersaturated with sb-bias sgyvists, so I thought maybe I should be more vocal about that LOL. Because honestly, I got into sgyv largely through sb’s perspective. I probably would have grown attached to bg on my own anyway because I agree with th that bg grows more charming the more you get to know him, but part of why I came to love bg so much is because sb loved him, and through sb’s eyes, I came to see why he cherishes him, until bg became just as important to me as sb.

Sometimes i get asks accusing me of “glazing” sb or putting him on a pedestal, but that’s not the case. I just tend to unpack him more because sb often requires it. I guess his care isn’t always obvious for some people on the surface, unlike bg who expresses himself more directly. To me, the way sb loves, through what he does and doesn’t do, what he says and doesn’t say, shows a level of investment in bg that he doesn’t show anyone else. Of course, like anyone, he isn’t perfect in how he expresses it. But for me, as a sb bias, becoming a sgyvist felt inevitable.