fragility · 12 answers · 10d
⠀꒰ question ꒱⠀How good would you say you are at comforting others❔⠀Would you say you're better or worse at it now than in the past?⠀Are you comfortable with people reaching out to comfort you?
⠀꒰ question ꒱⠀How good would you say you are at comforting others❔⠀Would you say you're better or worse at it now than in the past?⠀Are you comfortable with people reaching out to comfort you?
I am great at comforting others!! And now I am great at comforting, too! Ok, I think you meant "Are you comfortable with people reaching out for comfort from you?" or did you mean what you meant? Then I'll answer two questions. Yeah, I'm ok if someone wants it! I can do it for hours if the person wants it. But I feel uncomfortable if a person wants to comfort me, I can handle my pain on my own. Don't wanna ruin a person's day.
i've had a good number of friends say i'm kinda good at comforting 😇😇 but it mostly depends on who's fronting and how much energy i have available to put effort into figuring out the kind of comfort someone needs ...which lately i've been lacking, so it was probably better 2-3 years ago
i avoid aiming to make them "feel happier" or solving their problems for them if not asked for. focusing more on making the scenario flow into them either venting out or processing whatever's hurting them, which in turn helps me also understand what they're feeling. only after that do i attempt to lift their mood or suggest solutions. when it comes to reassurance, i can only provide that for close friends i know well enough, otherwise i wouldn't know what to say. if alternatively they don't want to face emotions, i can help with the distraction route a bit too. also sometimes just quietly being there for them, and making them feel like you are there with them through it can help without the need for grand words or actions. your willingness to listen, understanding, and presence matter more. at least that's what i know works from information i've gathered through the years
I dont think im good at comforting but i am good at listening and sometimes thats comfort enough for people yk? idk but if you need reassurance for most cases and stuff i am not your guy...
I wouldn't say I'm really good at comforting specifically. I'm good at listening and giving my own opinion than really trying to soothe someone's distress. My form of comfort is usually reassurance and stating the facts to like de-escalate things? I'm not sure if it counts. I think I used to be way worse at comforting in the past though, as I usually was emotionally unavailable and was always on edge. I am happy if people come to me for comfort and I try my best, but I usually prefer to act as a consultant than anything.
Im not very good at handling situations because I often feel overwhelmed, but I always try my best to cheer up others!! ⸜(｡ ˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡ I think most of the times it does work out but my attempts can be a bit……..clumsy? Wonky? Something like that. ( ╥ω╥ ) I was definetly better at it before, recently all my life has just been SUCKED OUT of me 😭🥹 I totally am comfortable with others reaching out, as long as it’s not the only thing they do (ᗒᗣᗕ)՞
Idkkk honestgly 🤔 i think my comfort game is decent but defintiely not on the higher end of comfort🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔but i Do like listening to people talk abouthow they feel u know and trying to figure out the optimal solution to help
I think I'm pretty good at it honestly but sometimes I don't know what type of comfort someone wants so I try to find a balance between the problem solver and consoling comfort. I'd like to think I'm a good listener and I appreciate it when people feel safe enough with me to come to me with their issues. I don't know how much I feel okay with sharing myself though, I usually voice all my problems to the same three people so I can appear semi-normal to everyone else
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