i'll only softblock people from my priv if i don't trust them completely because i do say a lot of stuff there, i've gotten told a bunch of times that if i want to share my honest opinion on stuff that then i should invest my time on a private account so that's what i did, and i use my priv to say exactly what i feel and how i feel it. if i get the feeling that someone on there might view me differently for what i say/choose to softblock me for that (basically, if i feel like someone might not be accepting of my standpoint), then i'd rather not have them on there at all and just keep things neutral (as i don't normally share my opinion on my main). moreover, i did recently softblock a bunch of people from my priv because i had over a 100 followers there and i most definitely was not super close with all of them, so i wanted to make it something a little more private and dedicated specifically to close oomfs, not to mention that i've said before i want on my priv only people who will actively interact with me so if you're not interactive i'm probably gonna remove you.

as for the dms thing, i'm not sure i get what you mean. if you're asking about why i'd randomly stop texting someone, there's multiple reasons for that. number one is, i'm very busy during the day. i genuinely have so much stuff to do regarding school and practice and exams so more often than not i barely have the energy to hold out long conversations with someone unless we're talking about a specific topic, and if i do have time then i spend it on call with my girlfriend / just scrolling / writing. additionally, i also do not normally engage in conversations over text with anyone because i struggle reading tone over text + i'd much rather call and speak (which is reserved for close friends only!), so i don't really text people a lot. i'm also very forgetful too asjkdjfj so even if i see the text message i'll just leave it rotting in my inbox because i either can't physically bring myself to reply or because i genuinely forget it.

like i told the other anon, pls if you have any further questions just dm me or leave your user and i'll dm you! no bad blood if i sbed you from my priv, i promise.