Oh dont worry, im pretty open about this kinda stuff lol. Personally this one was organized by my domme/friend so I didnt have to go through anything to find it. Generally my friends in real life are either freaks, SWers, or comfortable about sexuality, so i think events and more kinky people naturally find me lol (which is great because i hate the fetlife UI, my brain isnt a good match for whatevers going on there).

I would say if you dont have a personal connection who can be a gateway into the world of kink, attempting to navigate fetlife is the way to find these things. Id reccomend going to some munches/classes first before hopping right in so you find people who align with you cause uhhh not every party is the same LOLLL.... speaking from experience.... sapphic parties are rather hard to come by unless youre in a big city, too! So you might wanna stay on top of it if u really wanna go lol. Good luck!