little dove asking; · 3d
I hope so. Thank you for sharing your pov! I agree with treating everyone equally so we don’t get hurt. But I still don't like how I was kind to people who hurt me in the past.
I kept thinking, "If I were them, I wouldn't do that to anyone." Yet they kept coming back, calling me their best friend, even when I was annoyed and upset. Meanwhile, there were people I barely talked to who defended me behind my back. I overheard them say I would never be rude to someone who helped me. It's not that I hate fair-weather friends. It's just that if they came to me that often, I automatically got invested. Yeah, I guess we just have to keep being kind, and let time and the universe separate who’s real and who’s not. I want to learn how to be chill like you about it 😮💨
You wouldn’t get anywhere if you keep thinking of why does this person keep doing shit to you when all you did was being kind. People’s reaction and doing to us is not something you can control. Just like how you can’t control the weather, you also can’t control of what people think, feels, and do to you. I don’t think it’s necessary to keep dwelling in the same problem that have already passed. Just, accept the shitty acts and move on. I also understand it’s easier to said than done, but believe me, when you start accepting things the way it is and stop asking why, it will feel easier for your heart to move on. I also get it that we tend to get invested in people who seems like they are being kind to us, as for a tip, I think it’s better to keep the hope and expectation all to yourself. Don’t let it spread their wings into the open air and fly high to unknown places. Let it stay with you, hold it close to you, and never let it raise.
I… am not chill but if you think I am, I’m honored. Thanks for being kind!
