i find myself in more and more relationships where my empathy is, like, apparently so moving that i’m deemed trustworthy just from it. i dont really get why because empathy is certainly not something people pick and choose when to feel. and, therefore, i don’t think empathy should change how trustworthy anybody is. it’s just someone’s nature.

so immm . not super sure of my exact answer. mindlessly? naturally? with regret, oftentimes, actually—i’d prefer be judged on my actions and thoughts rather than (what i deem to be, anyway) decency (of course decency is hard to suggest when its in some’s nature to not be empathetic, but at the same time, if my empathy is natural, how am i to NOT feel it is only in the human nature to feel it? knowing factually it may not be in everyone’s natural set of feelings doesn’t ever actually help in the moment. you know, help it feel less rude or mean or inconsiderate. unfortunately.