Relationships are hard, ya? You never really know what the other person is feeling or how they actually see you. But it’s okay, Anon. We all wear masks to some extent. The more comfortable we become with someone, the more we start showing them who we really are. And sometimes, there are parts of ourselves that don’t quite fit the expectations we feel we have to meet.

Tapi gimana kalau ternyata it’s not just one-sided? What if she’s also struggling with the same flaws you think you have? What if she’s also just taking off her mask?

Being in a relationship is scary to begin with, but you have to decide whether you want to keep making assumptions or find out the truth. Kalau Ayah ada di posisimu, I’d rather communicate what bothers me than keep it to myself. Jadi, ngobrol. Tanya. Cari waktu ketika kalian bisa duduk bersama, tukar pikiran dengan tenang dan serius. Ask her, and tell her how you feel. If she truly loves you, she’ll learn to accept your flaws, too. Neither of you should have to pretend to be someone else just to keep the relationship going.