Depends on who you ask. For me Kelby it's actually an even split, I need both romance and sexuality otherwise it's not for me. for me Vee, I consider myself aroqueer so romance is only a sometimes thing, I prefer just to have it be a feel good thing most of the time. as for me Circe, it very dependent more on the needs of the other, I will gladly accommodate the needs of who I am with.