a curious person · 1mo
Being a new turtle I feel like it’s been a struggle finding a nice corner for myself where I can avoid fandom wars and just chill and enjoy what I enjoy. It’s so slow going to clean up my tl and I’m blocking so many accounts so I can get the content I like and avoid the ones I dislike.
I found your account and have been following for a few months now and I really appreciate your presence here! I have a theory in that some of the best people are those who are a part of multiple different fandoms and different hobbies because they are always so chill! Plus I get to be introduced to new stuff sometimes. At least that’s what I’ve discovered from following lovely people like you! Maybe because of experience in other fandoms, it leads to better perspective and so it’s not as easy to get sucked into or drown in fandom drama?
I read some recent advice you gave another anon on here and it gave me so much to think about. Would love to hear your thoughts on how you curate your fandom experience? Or do you find that it’s less about avoiding it and more about not letting it bother you?
i am definitely not expressing this as well as i hope to, but thank you so, so much 😭
this was just!! so incredibly kind of you to say, and it made me giddy and warm and so happy reading this message 💖 sometimes i do wonder if the whiplash from bouncing between this many interests annoys people, so i'm just glad that there are people who do enjoy the fun of it all ;v; welcome to turtledom and i'm so glad i can be a small part of your timeline!! hehe
i can't speak for everyone, but i definitely agree that being multifandom goes a long way in keeping you sane! there's never a boring day because there's always something to look forward to in one fandom or the other, you're less likely to hinge your own emotional state only on one thing, and i feel like it also helps you meet friends who are more likely to stay with you for you, rather than, for example, the content you bring to only one thing. and like you've said, you learn and experience so much!!! i love listening to my friends talk about hobbies/fandoms i'm not a part of because i learn about it through osmosis and then it becomes like my hobby-in-law + i add it to my pool of conversation starters HAHA
between the two things you mentioned, it's more deliberate curation on my part, for sure! i think it's a lot easier if i simply don't see it vs. me seeing it and trying to regulate my emotions after, especially if it's just pointless internet vitriol
i 100% relate to how you said it takes so much time to have to constantly filter through your timeline to just set up a space that doesn't show you the stuff you dislike. i feel like there was a time where i was blocking/muting people every day because i kept getting solo tweets until my timeline finally got the message lmaoooo
i always want to dispel the notion that blocking/muting is drastic or bad or anything negative!! i use it very liberally. my thought process behind it is always: "if i don't want to see what this person is saying (e.g. yz hate), they probably don't really want to see what i'm saying either (e.g. yz appreciation)." isn't it just time saved for everyone if i take the plunge first? :')
and even if that isn't the case i.e. you just don't really appreciate something or someone for any reason, fandom is always supposed to be your happy place. i think of curating your own fandom experience as similar to how some people decorate their workstations or put on a certain playlist to be more productive at work. or like... rather than complaining about the office noise, you put on noise-cancelling headphones. we can't really do much to control the people around us, but what we can do is to insulate ourselves as much as possible from the things that are distracting or unpleasant. and you just do what you have to do, for no one else but yourself ♡
