yeah see this is where the difference in interpretation comes in i think HASDHALDSKH i have never once seen stsg as doomed because "doomed" suggests a removal of agency. that there was no way they could've escaped their fate. and you're right, i Do enjoy stories where the couple is doomed (if they're done well). but i think it's a disservice to both geto and gojo to assume that their relationship was in any way shape or form doomed, when they both made active choices that lead to the dissolution of their friendship.

like, in my opinion, a Huge part of what makes these characters interesting as individuals IS their agency and what they choose to do with. gojo, with his complex, limited agency (living with both the freedom and restriction of being the strongest), deciding to not give up on humanity, to fight on behalf of the weak, to teach and guide young sorcerers to be different from him and the generation that raised him. geto becoming an extremist, putting himself on the warpath against all those he deemed "lesser", living for and loving the close circle he formed that fit his supposed ideal of perfect existence. HECK, i'd argue that geto's use of his agency earlier in his life is what makes his eventual LACK of it via kenjaku so poignant.

i welcome the argument that their batch As A Whole was doomed, in the sense that they were the least-equipped to deal with everything that they had to deal with and the reasons are all rooted in things they couldn't control. i welcome the argument that gojo himself is a doomed character, even, although i honestly think his eventual fate is more of a result of poor writing decisions than anything else. but like. these two, as a Duo, being doomed, i don't see that at all.

the entire point of their friendship breakdown is that they both made Entirely Different Choices and it lead to an irreparable rift. they went through the same, doomed mission (again, this is the only thing i can see being doomed), came out of it with completely different outlooks, and they Acted on those outlooks. geto left to become a curse user and gojo stayed to become a teacher. those are Choices They Made!!!!!

so yeah, i don't like this ship, but i also just never considered it doomed yaoi either. you can like what you like anonnie, and i can like what i like. let's live peacefully etc etc.