Long ramble, but here ya go: I can give you any advice for finding a person that shares your kinks - Be attractive, be funny, and don't immediately jump in with the expectation of dating this person or getting sexually/romantically involved. For me, I met my partner through the community, but we started off as friends years ago and worked our way up to the point where we're at now. Did I have a crush on her for years? Absolutely. Did I play the waiting game and was it worth it? Yes, and yes. If you really want someone that shares your kink, build a good foundation between you two and make kink this extra thing that adds to it. If you don't, that flame of desire is gonna flicker out quickly. Trust me, I know it personally. But have fun, take your time, and be yourself!