📑 asked apr. 30 '26 hello all, in what way do you …

I find myself having a very complicated perception of myself in relation to others who I perceive are a part of larger human society. I don't perceive myself as belonging among humans (whether because nonhumanity, neurodivergence, or my other life experiences? A mix of them?) so connection has always been a bit difficult and taxing, kind of a drag to do at times.

However, I do need people, I've found that not being able to talk to people for an extended period of time kind of drives me into a spiral! To my misfortune, I do need companionship and people to somehow connect to, as much as I dread the process and how it drains me. I need some semblance of belonging to at least some people; I don't particularly enjoy not belonging among human beings. I need people in the way that I need a home, a shelter. Some shelters aren't as good as others, but sometimes you need a break on your journey.

✧ ⨟ ⧼ Ajax; Saint ⧽ · 3mo

At this point in my life I require human connection to ground me and provide a sense of comfort, and in a less healthy sense the people closest to me often build up my self worth because I'm over reliant on them.

Aside from the people I've made an effort to get close to, I don't care to be in the presence of others or think about them longer than I have to, especially since social interaction and how I'm perceived by others can be highly stressful for me.

🦀 · 3mo

my perception of myself and my role does tend to fluctuate around other people, it depends! i love people though, i think id die if i didnt talk to at least one person outside of my immediate family per day.

Ი𐑼 𝗥o͟d͟i͟o͟n͟ · 3mo

i luv talking to people but i dont really like being around them for a long time, my brain literally stops working if im with someone for too long guhhh
not sure if i have a preference but i think of others a fair amount of times, like when something reminds me of someone or when im missing them !

soo, i need others the same way most would do, since we’re social animals after all :3

phen / cin ! · 3mo

EEyeee finally cvaught up

I'd like being a ghost in other people's lives #flowkey
I think it is really fun to just observe others.. getting to actually participate is sometimes even better ^^ Hmmuunnnmmm this question is kinda hard to answer 'cuz I don't feel like talking about [ MYSTERIOUS DISORDER ] but it is also so very closely linked to your questions, so sad.. Wellll in any case. I am always thinking of people. I think a lot about everyone I meet and I would like to stay in many people's lives I think. I need others because they fuel my love 4 da world #true and also because human connection is just so awesome all the time

WITCH · 3mo

yeah i need people a lot, i love being around and thinking of others it makes me feel really happy and stuff
i think i can understand people pretty well! although im not the best at responding, i can understand. i lov thinking about people they make mevery happy

Jake · 3mo

i feel like my answer would normally be be around a handful of people but in reality... i can only handle isolated face-to-face conversations most of the time. i feel like i'm airheaded and the most i think about others are when their name or interests are mentioned, otherwise i'll pretty much exist in a corner. — or that's what i'd like to say but... thinking about it a bit more i do think about people a lot, but... "my" (patron librarians) people.

i think about what times people front, what they like and dislike and what they'd like to do while they're here, and maybe that's kinda why i'm so airheaded to "outsiders". my brain is just overwhelmed having to manage an entire apartment complex that's basically only visible to me. which... is a bit wild to think about in retrospection.

i just noticed for me my CDD makes me play lobotomy corporation IRL on a larger scale... that's not a fun thing normally but honestly really funny when worded like that. first time i realized such a major thing about myself while responding to a QOTD lol

måkriyāna · 3mo

I Like the Idea of Others but needing Others sounds like me being a Bother and a Burden

Mettaton · 3mo

i like the validation people give me sometimes, or need it idk which one is which yet. i need them to survive anyways, without doctors and therapists and meds and stuff i dont know where i'd be #TBH

i hate being around people and thinking about them on a personal level make my skin feel itchy, i dont really understand anyone even if it's my best friend. i cant really avoid thinking about other's opinions of me, so it's not like i can avoid thinking about them LOL. this will probably change in the future like all my opinions

rain · 3mo

Ok, I can't write it right. I don't really know why I need others but it's probably to be with them together! I just like friendships

Well I'm ok with being with someone but I sometimes prefer being alone because socializing takes too much energy from me

Well I can understand any person and say what's familiar and what's not

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